Ever felt like you were living a groundhog day every day?

Do you feel like everything is the same and nothing changes?

Have you found your life is not what you wanted it to be?

Do you feel like you were supposed to be doing something different in life?

Many people feel this way. It can come and go through your life. I’ve been there and found it tough.

I have been lazy and just gone with the flow, hoping that when I wake up that something different would happen. For years, I waited and waited, seasons changed, time went by, my jobs changed, I cried, I laughed but it all stayed the same.

And all the time, I pondered, I read, I googled – but nothing changed.

Cycles and Circles

The funny thing about cycles is once you are in the damn thing it is very hard to get out.

You may think of a cycle as a circle drawn on a page with you stuck inside. A circle that has no end and no beginning. There are no exits or doors to walk through. A circle is a continuous line that goes around and around forever.

Sometimes you know you are on the merry go round and sometimes you don’t realise it. Your life starts to whirl past at a rapid rate of knots and before you know it, you are not where you were hoping you would be.

The unfortunate thing about life is that we don’t get a long time to spend on earth to do everything we want to. Years pass us by quickly as we grow from children to teenagers to adults. Being in a cycle can take chunks out of your life if you get stuck in one.

So, the question is, how do you fight your way out of a circle without an end or a door?

Getting Outside The Cycle

The toughest thing about cycles is getting on the outside of them. There is no fighting your way out, there is no easy way out, and no one can open the door to let you out.

The first step is to accept that you are in a cycle and living groundhog day. But most importantly, you must want to do something about it. Without these realisations, the escape plan cannot be developed.

Is it fear, rejection, depression, self-confidence, procrastination? What is it that is keeping you from stepping outside the cycle?

You need to identify the hold the cycle has on you. Accept it, analyse it and then develop steps to break outside it. You have to want to get out of the cycle. If you do not have this conviction and drive to make it happen, it won’t. You and you alone are the one that has to make this change.

Change happens only when you are willing to let it happen. You cannot do it because someone has told you, you must want it so bad that you will do anything to make it happen. You have to believe it is possible, you have to visualise yourself outside the cycle.

There is no other special formula or method that will fix it. You just need to believe in yourself and want to change bad enough.

“When you want to succeed as bad as you want to breathe, then you’ll be successful.”- Eric Thomas

Easier Said Than Done

Absolutely! This journey will be one of the hardest trials you will go through and while you must be the one to make the choice to make change happen, it doesn’t mean you have to do it alone.

You will need support to assist you from slipping back under, to prop you up, and to be the shoulder to cry on. And the support person or people you choose need to be the right type of people. Someone who can hold you accountable, provide you with the right pep talk to keep you going, or to just be quiet, hold space and listen.

Without support, it will be far more difficult to keep from falling back into the cycle.

Great Pep Talk – But Now What?

Take the first step by accepting you are in a cycle and make a decision that you want to change and get out of it.

Next, talk to someone you trust, share what you are going through and see where it leads. It could be a best friend, your partner, pastor, life coach, or sometimes a random stranger.

Find a club, a meeting or a group if one exists for whatever you are going through.

Most importantly, be kind to yourself.

You may or may not break out of the cycle on the first attempt. Do not count this as a failure but as something to learn from, on how to pivot and do things differently the next time around.

Make each challenge and obstacle a learning experience to build a stronger and better you.

Where To Find Support And Community

Interested in a community that can help support you in breaking out of your cycles and freeing you from groundhog day?

Then check out the Sagacity Rising Community.